Yes, I am 16 and have a boyfriend. I don’t know why do some people think its a huge deal. I don’t think teenagers above about 15 years of age should be stopped from infatuating over someone and not enjoy that feeling of teenage love. Of course, if it gets out of hand then adult intervention is required. But, isn’t life about experience? Then, why stop us from experiencing this? We don’t want to grow up and become dull grandparents!

My boyfriend and I started dating at the end of 2014. It was quite unexpected and was triggered by a talk at night. I do believe people change considerably during the night for some reason. So, we were more open and receptive towards each other at that moment and it all happened really quickly, with both of us avoiding the question, and asking the other to answer, and it ended by me just answering his question because I am so darned impatient. I didn’t think it was a good idea then, because I was supposed to move to Hong Kong in three months’ time, but he convinced me to give it a shot.

Now, 9 months later, both of us are really enjoying the other’s company from 3000 miles away and have told at least one of our parents. This is my second relationship (the first one was a huge disaster) and I have learnt a lot from it. I know it isn’t a fantasy relationship, nor do I expect it to last forever. But, the lessons I learn and the observations I glean about myself, my weaknesses and strengths, likes and dislikes (the significant ones) are all life-long.

I’ve faced a lot of remarks and judgments when a few people came to know about my relationship. That was quite hurtful, because the moment they came to know, they assumed I am not interested in studies and might also be involved in substance abuse. Well, all these three things are quite different. Yes, I have an amazing, amazing boyfriend, no I love my studies, no I am not involved in substance abuse. Also, I don’t sleep around. We really should stop connecting completely different situations with each other and making judgments.

And, being in a relationship always doesn’t mean all romantic stuff. My boyfriend and I are more like best friends. We keep on rooting for the other to get another girlfriend/boyfriend. We do help each other out in our “professional” lives in private. Our relationship is quite open and mature. And, lets face it, many teenagers are getting into relationships now. If you don’t allow them, they won’t tell you, and would most likely end up doing stuff that is beyond their understanding. So, rather, parents allow them and explain to them the limits, and reassure them of their presence and support always.